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Question: Yes! We shall knock em dead.

Dear Lounge Advice,where can I find a dictionary for all the abbreviations used by members? For example HWP and DDS

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

There is a link titled"
"Looking for a lifestyle term or definition?"
located that the bottom of our Advice area :-)

Click on Advice on the top menu bar…then keep scrolling down to the bottom.
You will see the link located there.


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Question: looking for fun

Dear Lounge Advice,
We are a couple that have been trying to get into the lifestyle for a few years. However there is a few problems. I am fully bi and our whole reason for going is so I can find more female interaction. I am not interested in trying another guy in any way.
My hubby fully supports my search for a girlfriend or play date, but it's more to see me happy. He's not pushing for a three some but will participate to please me.


It seems like the only way I can get my girl time is if I go against my wishes and play with a guy.
Is there any hope for me to have my fun with out compromising or is it just a fantasy?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

There is always hope:-)
When meeting or attending events you should always be open and specific with others about what you are looking for.
We don't recommend "taking one for the team" just to find,explore and enjoy your bi-female wishes.
That seems to always generate or leave negative feelings in the mix.

Make sure you desires are CLEARLY posted on your profile descriptive areas.

Currently your profile scans that you are a couple seeking other couples w/ bi females.
As of right now there is nothing stating that you are actively looking for female/female only bi experiences.

The more direct you are on your profile the less mis-understandings there will be for other people viewing your account.

Also…consider posting b00ty calls looking just for this specific experience.


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Question: Hot babe with luscious & tight pussy. Dripping wet

Dear Lounge Advice,

I have had several nice couples and men contact me, having newly joined. I have not been physically attracted to several of them. I'm not sure how I should respond?

Also, I've been to one swingers party several years ago, and plan to start attending events soon. How do community members usually indicate they don't want to play with someone?

Thank you

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Hi,

We strongly feel that if someone took the time to reach out to you.. .and by doing so is extending to you a nice compliment.. that they deserve at least the respect of an answer.

We are all big boys and girls here… and the best thing to do is to be direct without having to go into details.

We suggest using something as simple as, "Thank you very much for your nice email, but at this time I do not think that we would make a very good match."

END OF STORY.

If they respond as to, why? (Which most will NOT) simply say, "Please respect our/my decision"
THAT IS IT… no explanations are required !

Be short.. sweet.. .and to the point !

The same applies at actual events that you might attend.

Just tell the couple/person that if it's play that they're exclusively seeking, then you wish them well.
But if it's a friendship without expectations of play, then you'd love to hang out with them.
With this scenario, you can either avoid them or be direct.

We prefer being directly polite so as not to hurt feelings.
This way, they will not keep a candle burning for you.

Think of when you were single on the dating scene. How did YOU turn down advances?
It's really no different here.
Use what was successful when you were single as long as it's not hurtful.

If they get offended or upset, that's their cross to bear, not yours.

Show deference with you honesty and you will be doing the right thing:-)





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Question: Playful couple seeks other couples for fun

Dear Lounge Advice,

What does "BBC only" mean?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

It is an acronym for Big Black Only:-)

LL Advice

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Question: Fun loving couple, willing to try new ideas,

Dear Lounge Advice, I live in Minnesota and me and my GF want to try out swinging, are there any good clubs or groups in the area for that?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Hi,

You can always check the Events area on our home page or the Travel & Parties area in our Forum for current events in your area.

There usually is always something going on in the general Mpls/St Paul area of MN and new faces are always welcome :-)

After reviewing your profile your account is not certified with the Real Seal certification.

To help protect member privacy only subscribing members with the "Real Seal" certification can view the Events are on our home page.

As a couples account getting you account certified real is an easy process.

This is a free upgrade and will only improve your access and enjoyment of the sites various features.
This includes the ability to view and upload photos to the gold and "password" areas on profiles,
access to the events area on the home page,Booty Call, and cam feeds in Chat.

You can either request certification from another certified couple you have met in person or we can certify your account with a simple verification photo.

In order for us to certify your account you will need to send us a confidential verification photo of the two of you holding a "hand written" sign that says:
- lifestylelounge.com
- your member name
- the current date

Each of you must be holding a corner of the sign and your faces and bodies must be visible in the photo (clothing is preferred).

This photo will not be posted on the site…that is up to you.

The verification photo will also allow us to certify your account as a couple.

You can attach the photo to a mail to our ADMINISTRATION profile on the site.


I hope this helps and hope you have fun at your first event:-)






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Question: Sexless marriage produces sad wife!

Dear Lounge Advice,

I am a complete newbie & have decided to try out the LS with my MFWB that I’ve known over 30yrs. The problem is he’s been a bit leery of trying a club nearby. I decided to go by myself & had fun, but worried about him now agreeing to go & us being ignored. I’d feel terrible if the one & only time I’m not approached is when he decided to finally come along for the ride. Any ideas? I know you’re never guaranteed to hook up, but I’ve yet to have any problems & since I tell him everything…well he knows! He’s very handsome, & I think we make a cute couple. I just don’t want to start off our LS experience together on the wrong foot.

Thanks!

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Hi,

As the old saying goes "You'll never get wet…if you don't get in the pool".

Make sure you are both on the same page and now what you are looking for before you go to an event.
Nothing worse for the other couple than for them to go through the effort of "seducing" you both only to find out one of you has cold feet.

Dress to impress and you are sure to find success.
Your chances of getting attention from other people attending goes up exponentially if you are both dressed appropriately in something classy,fun,SEXY and revealing…but not to the point it gets trashy.

Don't be wall flowers!
If you stand or sit in a corner all night long your chances of finding an erotic encounter will pretty much flat line…
Get out and meet people :-)
Get your butts on the floor & mingle and have some fun.
It's a great way to meet other people.

If one of you is more outgoing…and you see someone or a couple thats peaks your interest then make the first move and introduce yourselves.
Telling people that you are new to this and this is your first time attending can be a great conversation starter.

Ask around about any After-Parties going on.
Most events always have After-Parties either public or private ones hosted by someone attending.
If you don't make any connections during the regular party…the after parties are almost always a "sure thing" for playtime…even if you only end up playing with each other while other watch or being a voyeur.

Best of luck to you in your adventures :-)








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Question: Great couple with hot wife ready to play!

Dear Lounge Advice, We will be in Dominican Republic in July and are looking for some fun!! Suggestions? Club? Escort? any ideas?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Hi,

Try posting in our "Travel & Parties" or "Members Helping other Members" area of the Forum.

I'm sure if you ask for suggestions in the Forum some of our members will "chime in" with some suggestions for Clubs and "Hot Spots" to check out during your travels there.

You can also reach out to LLTRAVEL on the site.
They are the official travel agents for LL and a good resource information for fun places to check out around the destination you will be at.

Happy Travels :-)



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Question: Beginner seeks new experiences and playmates

Dear Lounge Advice,
I am in a very clearly defined open relationship with my fiancé but he does not want to be on here with me yet. He doesn't want to know anything about my extra marital encounters.
Am I allowed to be on LL and will others understand I am part of a couple but seeking adventures on my own?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Of course you are welcome here:-)

Everyone has a different situation in their personal lives and yours actually is not as"taboo" or uncommon as you might think.

There are a lot of couples involved in the "lifestyle" that are in fully "open relationships" or where only one half of the couple is the primary participant in the "lifestyle".

We highly advise that you include these details and some clarity within your profiles descriptive areas to avoid any confusion when other members are viewing or contacting you.

Being upfront, open & honest about your situation with other members is the best advice we can give you.






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Question: Young Insatiable Bull For Cuckold Couple

Dear Lounge Advice,

What are general tips and best practices for single M seeking to find cuckold situations in real life?

I've only had a few over the years and would like to make this happen more often!

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),


Step one….your profile needs a lead photo.
No one is going to look at your profile if you don't have a lead photo featured on your account.

Your profile is not certified real.
For privacy and personal security reasons many of our members simply will not engage in a conversion with a profile that has no lead photo and is not certified with the real seal certification.

Once you get an enticing lead photo up and your account certified try posting in the booty call area…there are always couples looking to spice things up…


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Question: Attractive Couple

Dear Lounge Advice,

I am looking for an erotic massage for my wife, we did one of those several years ago and it was a big hit for my wife. I am trying to surprise her with a massage. Do you know of anyone that would be in swinging that gives such a massage?

Thank You!!

Dreesano

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Hi,

Try checking our Classifieds area for massage options in your area.

You could also post your query in one of our forum areas like "Health and Fitness", "Off Topic" or "Members Helping Members " to see if other LL members in your general area respond with some suggestions for a "lifestyle" friendly masseuse.



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