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Question: Playful couple seeks other couples for fun

Dear Lounge Advice,

What does "BBC only" mean?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

It is an acronym for Big Black Only:-)

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Question: Fun loving couple, willing to try new ideas,

Dear Lounge Advice, I live in Minnesota and me and my GF want to try out swinging, are there any good clubs or groups in the area for that?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Hi,

You can always check the Events area on our home page or the Travel & Parties area in our Forum for current events in your area.

There usually is always something going on in the general Mpls/St Paul area of MN and new faces are always welcome :-)

After reviewing your profile your account is not certified with the Real Seal certification.

To help protect member privacy only subscribing members with the "Real Seal" certification can view the Events are on our home page.

As a couples account getting you account certified real is an easy process.

This is a free upgrade and will only improve your access and enjoyment of the sites various features.
This includes the ability to view and upload photos to the gold and "password" areas on profiles,
access to the events area on the home page,Booty Call, and cam feeds in Chat.

You can either request certification from another certified couple you have met in person or we can certify your account with a simple verification photo.

In order for us to certify your account you will need to send us a confidential verification photo of the two of you holding a "hand written" sign that says:
- lifestylelounge.com
- your member name
- the current date

Each of you must be holding a corner of the sign and your faces and bodies must be visible in the photo (clothing is preferred).

This photo will not be posted on the site…that is up to you.

The verification photo will also allow us to certify your account as a couple.

You can attach the photo to a mail to our ADMINISTRATION profile on the site.


I hope this helps and hope you have fun at your first event:-)






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Question: Sexless marriage produces sad wife!

Dear Lounge Advice,

I am a complete newbie & have decided to try out the LS with my MFWB that I’ve known over 30yrs. The problem is he’s been a bit leery of trying a club nearby. I decided to go by myself & had fun, but worried about him now agreeing to go & us being ignored. I’d feel terrible if the one & only time I’m not approached is when he decided to finally come along for the ride. Any ideas? I know you’re never guaranteed to hook up, but I’ve yet to have any problems & since I tell him everything…well he knows! He’s very handsome, & I think we make a cute couple. I just don’t want to start off our LS experience together on the wrong foot.

Thanks!

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Hi,

As the old saying goes "You'll never get wet…if you don't get in the pool".

Make sure you are both on the same page and now what you are looking for before you go to an event.
Nothing worse for the other couple than for them to go through the effort of "seducing" you both only to find out one of you has cold feet.

Dress to impress and you are sure to find success.
Your chances of getting attention from other people attending goes up exponentially if you are both dressed appropriately in something classy,fun,SEXY and revealing…but not to the point it gets trashy.

Don't be wall flowers!
If you stand or sit in a corner all night long your chances of finding an erotic encounter will pretty much flat line…
Get out and meet people :-)
Get your butts on the floor & mingle and have some fun.
It's a great way to meet other people.

If one of you is more outgoing…and you see someone or a couple thats peaks your interest then make the first move and introduce yourselves.
Telling people that you are new to this and this is your first time attending can be a great conversation starter.

Ask around about any After-Parties going on.
Most events always have After-Parties either public or private ones hosted by someone attending.
If you don't make any connections during the regular party…the after parties are almost always a "sure thing" for playtime…even if you only end up playing with each other while other watch or being a voyeur.

Best of luck to you in your adventures :-)








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Question: Great couple with hot wife ready to play!

Dear Lounge Advice, We will be in Dominican Republic in July and are looking for some fun!! Suggestions? Club? Escort? any ideas?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Hi,

Try posting in our "Travel & Parties" or "Members Helping other Members" area of the Forum.

I'm sure if you ask for suggestions in the Forum some of our members will "chime in" with some suggestions for Clubs and "Hot Spots" to check out during your travels there.

You can also reach out to LLTRAVEL on the site.
They are the official travel agents for LL and a good resource information for fun places to check out around the destination you will be at.

Happy Travels :-)



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Question: Beginner seeks new experiences and playmates

Dear Lounge Advice,
I am in a very clearly defined open relationship with my fiancé but he does not want to be on here with me yet. He doesn't want to know anything about my extra marital encounters.
Am I allowed to be on LL and will others understand I am part of a couple but seeking adventures on my own?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Of course you are welcome here:-)

Everyone has a different situation in their personal lives and yours actually is not as"taboo" or uncommon as you might think.

There are a lot of couples involved in the "lifestyle" that are in fully "open relationships" or where only one half of the couple is the primary participant in the "lifestyle".

We highly advise that you include these details and some clarity within your profiles descriptive areas to avoid any confusion when other members are viewing or contacting you.

Being upfront, open & honest about your situation with other members is the best advice we can give you.






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Question: Young Insatiable Bull For Cuckold Couple

Dear Lounge Advice,

What are general tips and best practices for single M seeking to find cuckold situations in real life?

I've only had a few over the years and would like to make this happen more often!

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),


Step one….your profile needs a lead photo.
No one is going to look at your profile if you don't have a lead photo featured on your account.

Your profile is not certified real.
For privacy and personal security reasons many of our members simply will not engage in a conversion with a profile that has no lead photo and is not certified with the real seal certification.

Once you get an enticing lead photo up and your account certified try posting in the booty call area…there are always couples looking to spice things up…


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Question: Attractive Couple

Dear Lounge Advice,

I am looking for an erotic massage for my wife, we did one of those several years ago and it was a big hit for my wife. I am trying to surprise her with a massage. Do you know of anyone that would be in swinging that gives such a massage?

Thank You!!

Dreesano

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Hi,

Try checking our Classifieds area for massage options in your area.

You could also post your query in one of our forum areas like "Health and Fitness", "Off Topic" or "Members Helping Members " to see if other LL members in your general area respond with some suggestions for a "lifestyle" friendly masseuse.



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Question: SEXY NYC TRY-SEXUAL

Dear Lounge Advice,

I have recently been expressing my sexual desires to my wife. They always happen in the heat of the moment. I have tried asking for a threesome with another woman, and got very little response. In an effort to explore her boundaries , I suggested a threesome with another male where I would be a spectator, or an active participant. She gets arroused. However, afterwards she never mentions it again. How can I move this beyond dirty talk?

Looking for more.



Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Hi,

Everyone has different comfort levels for expressing & discussing their private desires.

If you are waiting for her to bring this up again after the "after glow" has expired and that is not happening then you may need to be more direct in your approach in discussing this topic.

My best advice would be to try talk about this outside of a sexual moment and see what kind of traction the conversation gets.

You both definitely need to be on the same page before you start experimenting on playing out each others fantasies with other lifestyle partners.

Attending a "Lifestyle/Swing" friendly event in your area is a perfect environment to explore and tempt your fantasies together.

Watching other people mingle & flirt and touch each other can be a HUGE turn on for both of you.
It might also give you both the opportunity to join in on some private voyeur of other peeps having sex or trying some "soft swing" during the event or at an open "after party" get together…and there are ALWAYS open "after parties"…or you could start your own ;);)

Explore each other verbally throughout the event…"would you like to try that"…or "It would really turn me on to see you with that person/couple"…you get the idea.

The important thing is to not put too much pressure on this…let things unfold naturally over time with a little light naughty coaxing…










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Question: SEXY NYC TRY-SEXUAL

Dear Lounge Advice,

I am heading to Miami in February. My wife is pretty Vanilla, but has expressed an interest in voyerism. She gets hot thinking about us fucking while others watch. Any suggestions as to clubs, and how we set boundaries?

I would like this potential experience to lead to more uninhibited ones, with more participants.

Any thoughts on how I should proceed?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Check out our Events section on our Home page
for the dates you are traveling to Florida and
see if there are any parties or events being held close to the area you will be staying.
There is also a Clubs link that you can review to locate "lifestyle" friendly Clubs & parties that occur regularly.

IMHO attending an event or two together is the best way to get your feet wet in the swinging lifestyle.

Talk together upfront before you both attend anything, set up your "boundaries& comfort zones" in advance and both of you be on the same page prior to walking in…if you need any at all.

Be "upfront" to people & couples that you meet about why you are there and what your fantasy is.
That will be a good "ice breaker" and set the tone for the evening well in advance of any playtime.
There are lots of couples who get their feet wet in the lifestyle by having sex together while others watch and or visa versa….you watching them.

Good luck & have fun !




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Question: Playful male seeking attractive female or couple f

Dear Lounge Advice I would like to get some action going. Want to try out meeting people in person and attending an event if any are going on now. I am new to all of this and very anxious to see live sex and to participate in it. Tell me how I can speed things up a little.

Thanks

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Profiles that contain no photos and a very vague description get little to no press.

I suggest that you add some sexy photos & videos to your profile and get your account certified "real" with the real seal certification.
For privacy and security reasons many of our seasoned members simply will not interact or respond to profiles that are not certified and have not a single photo.

The more you participate on the site in areas like the forums, groups,contests ,etc…the more exposure your profile will get with other members.

Check out the "Travel & Parties" of the forum and try to attend an event in your area.
Attending parties or events is an excellent way to introduce yourself and meet some members "fact to face" to make an impression.

Good luck. Get those photos posted :-)


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