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Question: How do we tell long term playmates that we no longer want to play with them?

Dear Lounge Advice,

We are a couple in the lifestyle for six years. We have met many wonderful couples amd have become very good friends with many. Having played with many of these couples over the years there are some that we are no longer sexually attracted to but remain great friends with. Our quandry is how do we let these great peole know how we feel without hurting their feelings. We know as adults that honesty is always the best policy but we just can't bring ourselves to say anything because we enjoy their company as friends and certainly do not want to hurt anyones feelings. Also I would like to add that there is a group of these couples that we have been very close to over the past six years, some of us started in the lifestyle together so there is a very close bond with us all. The group often have parties and we are always making excuses for not going. Any suggestions would be helpful but I'm sure your going to go the "truth" route !



Dear (Anonymous),

Telling them the straight truth is the easiest route but can also be the most difficult due to the long term friendship.

If confronting this issue is just too difficult...understandable...you might want to consider a carefully and thoughtfully written email to the particular couple or couples that you no longer want to play with.

Either way make sure that you emphasize the you truly value their friendship and want to remain as such...and that you simply need a break from the physical relationship right now.

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