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Question: I recently found out that he wants to take another girl(not in LL) out to meet our freinds from LL and didnt ask me to go...

Dear Lounge Advice,

Me and my boyfreind found out about this site through freinds and we have met other couples who want to hook up with us, I recently found out that he wants to take another girl(not in LL) out to meet our freinds from LL and didnt ask me to go, I feel betrayed and dont know if I want to continue with him in this lifestyle,



Dear (Anonymous),

You SHOULD feel betrayed. You are in this lifestyle TOGETHER. He broke the together part of that when he tried to arrange that little rendezvous without you.
It's time to put the brakes on. It's time to communicate.
I sincerely hope that you told him you feel betrayed. He needs to know that, and if he brushes off your feelings, then beware! The lifestyle is about trust and honesty. If you don't have that, it will only lead your downfall as a couple.
Make it very clear that you are in it together, and that every intention on both of your parts will be verbalized to one another. If this is not the case, you're in trouble. This is no place for secrets.

This lifestyle is like the wind.

If the fire of the relationship is strong from honesty and communication,
that wind will fuel your fire, and make it grow larger.
If your fire is being stifled by dishonesty and decpetion,
the wind will blow your fire out.

Think on that, and act as you see fit.

My previous marriage was stifled by my husband's deceptions.
The lifestyle became our ruin because it was his outlet for that deception.

Don't allow it to do that to you.



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