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Question: I only want oral sex with other couples, he want's it all.

Dear Lounge Advice,

My husband and I have been envolved in the lifestyle for around 4 years with 8 months off in the 3rd year for some soul searching. When we came back I would only do it if we could enjoy oral sex only with all others and intercourse saved for us only. That started last year and my husband is now unhappy with that and wants more. If I continue oral only and we see couples ( as I am comfortable with at this time- together) can he penetrate while I only give and receive oral? What is the proper protocal? How many couples in the lifestyle use condoms? Thank you, S



Dear (Anonymous),

The first thing you need to come to grips with is whether this arrangement where you are just doing oral and he is able to do penetration is really ok with you. If your husband wants more... and you don't... allowing it to go on if it is against your real feekubgs will just be building up a lot of resentment inside you every time it happens.

If its really fine with you.. then what you MUST do is make sure that you communicate upfront with any couple you plan to play with that your rules are for him to be allowed to penetrate only... and leave it up to them.

Honestly that sounds like a one-sided proposition that won't seem very appealing to many couples. Usually what's good for the goose.. is good for the gander... Good Luck!

Almost everyone we know uses condoms.
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