Dear Lounge Advice, My husband likes going on these chat sites how ever he pretends to be me, so people don't know that they're really talking to him and not me. He's also pushing me to do the group thing (he's never done it) What should I do? Sincerely, (Anonymous)

Dear (Anonymous), First of all, he should NOT be masquerading as you. It's pure deception. Second, if he's pushing you to do something you don't feel comfortable with, say NO! Being in the lifestyle means that both partners should feel comfortable with the chosen activities. If the idea of group activities doesn't appeal to you, then he has no right to push the issue. Period.