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Question: What do you think about bending our swinging rules in order to find more play partners?

Dear Lounge Advice,

My husband and I have been in the lifestyle for a little over a year now. It started out that we would look for a bifemale for him to watch her and I play and then he would be with me or with both of us. This threesome venue has been great but of course the single bi female is difficult to find. - We have a lot of couples approach us with bifemales - they usually want the ladies to play and then the men get involved with each others partners for at least a soft swap. - I do not mind my husband giving/receiving oral from another woman, but I do not feel I want to do that with another man.

My husband says that perhaps we should try a soft swap to see if it is for us or not. He feels this would allow us more options if it worked for us. Is it usual to be in the lifestyle and not pursue this?

Thanks for your advice!!!



Dear (Anonymous),

You have to stick to your guns !!! There is no wrong or right or "usual".. there is only the truth for you... The only light you know is what you see out of your own eyes.

If you give in to something you really dont want to do.. you are flirting with disaster... this is supposed to be all about you guys.. not anyone else.

If you can find couples that are ok with your hubby playing and you just playing with the fems.. then that is fine... but it will not be easy... sounds like he needs to chill out and take it slow.. and not push you...
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