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Question: My partner is ready to ruin our realtionship to enter this lifestyle

Hi There,

I have been with my partner for 10 years and have been best friends for 15. I love him more then anything, he wants to be in the LS and I am not sure about it, I am curious about it. I feel happy with the sex we have, it is the best. I am always a pretty open minded person however I am having a hard time with this one. He wants it so bad that he is willing to leave our life for this lifestyle and I am not sure what to do. He says I am insacure but I just feel satisfied with him. I have had other men and I didn't like it and didn't find the same plesures that I do with him. I love his touch and he makes me feel like I am prude!!!!! I don't want to loose my best friend

HELP

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

There is absolutely nothing wrong with how you are feeling. If you want only him, then that is how it should be. Nobody should partake in this lifestyle because they feel pressured, or because their partner is set on doing it. Please tell him exactly what you said in this letter. If he cannot accept your decision not to get into the lifestyle, he has his priorities seriously mixed up. If he is willing to place your relationship in peril because of his selfish desires, then it obviously isn't a relationship in which he places much value. A will to leave an established relationship with a partner who loves him only says that he values sex with others more than the preservation of perhaps the best thing in his life.
Please do not stand for any further pressure from him. You are entitled to monogamy if that is what you truly want!
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