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Question: How do we deal out rejection?

Dear Lounge Advice, We have meet with a few cpls but we are newbies and we are trying to find a few friends to have some fun with. How do we go about telling couples that we aren't interested but would still be willing to chat but nothing on a physical level. We have found certain couples nice and we had a nice time talking but we aren't attracted to them at all. Please help us out so we don't lead them on or hurt their feelings. TY

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

There will always be the inevitable battle with rejections- both giving and receiving them.
If someone e-mails you and they just aren't your type, there is a simple way to let them know that you aren't interested.

Thanks for your interest in us! Although we don't feel that we are a match, we'd still love to chat with you, since making friends is one of our main goals here. If a friendship with benefits is what you're exclusively seeking, we certainly won't take it personally if you don't wish to pursue us any longer. Either way, we hope all of your dreams and fantasies come true!


This not only gives them the chance to take the rejection with their dignity intact, but it also proves you to be a classy person by responding to their e-mail despite your disinterest, and doing so in a classy manner. You do not need to provide reasons for your disinterest. That is your business, not theirs. If they write back asking for the reason, you can either choose to ignore it, or politely inform them that the reasons do not matter, only that you aren't a match as you said in your initial correspondence.

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