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Question: How do I get my wife more comfortable?

Dear Lounge Advice,
My wife and I are new to this site and is by far the best site we have come upon!!!! Finally, thank God!!! Maybe you can give us some advice on how to come in contact with interacial couples near our area? My wife is still kind of new to the idea but she is getting more and more comfortable with it. Is there anything I can do to make thing easier for her?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Obvously, you can't expect her to go from posting an ad to meeting a couple for full swap. Ask her if she would like to go to a club just to watch sometime, and take small steps from there accordingly.
As excited as you may be about swinging, it is best to step back and ascertain the best way for you both to enter the lifestyle comfortably. Your partner may require extensive time and exposure to feel at ease with this idea. Remember that many people hold misconceptions about the lifestyle and may need this time and experience to help clear up misunderstandings.
If you both do consider taking it further than online exploration, try attending a pressure-free event, such as a meet and greet, and make it clear that neither one of you is expected to do anything at all. This way, your experience will be much less intimidating and she will be more inclined to explore further.
If all goes well the first time them have her decide which event she might like to try the next time.

Your partner may warm up to the lifestyle a bit more if she enjoys the parties and the company and realizes that the stereotypes surrounding the lifestyle are often false and contrived. Attending lifestyle events serves many purposes for first-timers, or those who are otherwise timid of the initial experience. As a rule, she will be able to see firsthand the wonderful people that are involved in this, and understand that lifestylers are not depraved sexual predators, nor are they devoid of morals or couth.
As for meeting interracial couples, just start perusing the profiles. Eventually, you're bound to find a great match!
Good luck~
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