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Question: Profile advice

Dear Lounge Advice,

My partner and I have had an ad up for over three months. We are in our early 40's. We've written to probably 150 couples and expressed an interest in meeting. The couples are always pretty close to our age and within 50 miles. So for the most part, we get rejected or ignored 90 percent of the time. I've never felt so rejected ...

Can you look at our profile and give me some honest advice? When we meet couples in person we seem to have pretty good luck but I'm thinking we are turning a lot of people off and I don't understand why. This is the most rejection I (the woman) have ever experienced and it isn't making the experience all that fulfulling.

Any advice?



Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

The 'rejection' rate that you're speaking of is really not all that abnormal. People in the lifestyle can be very picky. We all have very different criteria that we set for choosing our swing partners. Some couples out there have virtually no luck at all. If you feel that you're getting ignored by many, there are more reasons than just disinterest. Some of the profiles you are writing to may be older and their owners just don't visit any more. Some people take forever to answer their e-mails (like us) There are plenty of reasons.
As for your profile, it looks just fine. The only thing I can suggest is that you consider adding more pics. The more pics, the better.
Three months is just a drop in the bucket as far as this goes. If you're already experiencing positive results, no matter how few, you're headed in the right direction.
Being rejected is always going to be part of this experience. You're not turning people off. You're just experiencing the normal flow of being a part of a swinger's site. If you continue to take it personally, you won't get the most out of your experience here.
Hang in there. It will be worth your time!
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