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Question: We're finding it hard to hook up here
Dear Lounge Advice,
We have been on the site for 3 months now and have yet to find a couple worth hooking up with. We have contacted many couple who will e-mail back and forth then usually bail when it comes to meeting. It seems people really don't trust each other and really have many other issues in their lives. The couples we do meet up with are just sex freaks and very odd. Is this really a hook up site or a chat site cause we hook up a lot more and with regular people by just going to parties. For that reason we might be ending our subsricption to this site if we can't find a reason to stay. thanks for any help
It usually takes a good deal of time before you can find those 'gems'. All of us have been in your position before and we still go through it no matter how long we've been around the lifestyle. Sometimes life gets too hectic and people just can't commit to 'dates' as often as they would like. With us, it's hard to even find time to answer this column anymore! As for trust issues, it's not so much that as it is time issues. I'd suggest that you stick it out for a little while. The more time you persevere, the more likely you are to find something worthwhile. I've been around the lifestyle for ten years now, and I've found that this takes a lot of patience. But it does pay off!
Good luck :)
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