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Question: How can we get them to let us in on their fantasies?

Dear Lounge Advice,
Our question is about fantasy vs. reality in the lifestyle. We have recently made friends with a couple and they are really a great match for us. We have so much fun with them, and they really turn us on. However, we have begun to notice that they sometimes have fantasies that they wish to live out with us, but don't let us in on it. For example, the female side of the couple asked the Mr. in this couple to meet her at her home. By all accounts we thought she was serious. I thought it was hot and we planned for it, when the time came - she said that she was joking. Another occasion, she talked about an entire scenario, then said that it was untrue. They make plans with us to do dates, then change the date when the time comes, It's very hot, but how to we get them to let us in to their fantasies, and not actually make plans when it doesn't happen? How can we differentiate reality and fantasy? THANKS and please help!!



Dear (Anonymous),

With this couple, you're going to have a hard time discerning fantasy from reality, as you've found out.
All you have to do is talk to them. Tell them that some of these things are very hot, and you're more than willing to give them a go. Let them know that if they get you all worked up and don't want to do it, or say it's a joke, then they're teasing! Of course, you would say the aformentioned in a playful way. You should tell them straight out that you want to be party to their thoughts and fantasies so you know what to expect AND so you can work yourselves up for it!
This can all be remedied by a simple (erotic) conversation!
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