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Question: What to talk about when out on a 'date'

Dear Lounge Advice,
I was wondering if you have any advice on what to talk about on the first meet (with someone you plan on having sex with)?

I am nornally a talkative fun person, BUT for some strange reason, I become very shy on the first meet with someone. I would like to avoid the awkward silences.

I was hoping you would have some tips on topics that would trigger conversation. I don't mean like any regular conversation you would have with anyone. E.g., do you have any siblings? Where do you work, what do you do etc..

The topics should target people in this lifestyle
because most people are descrete and some people in this lifestyle don't want to talk about personal things (siblings, work etc.)
Which brings me to the question of, how can I avoid awkward silences?

Any advice would be great.

Also, may I recommend something?
It would be great if the websiote had a search for all your advice columns. I feel I could have searched to see if this was already discussed without having to bother you.

I would have searched for "conversation starters" or top ten topics to talk about on your first meet and greet.

Thank you for your time.

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Ask them if they've been to any good parties and/or swing clubs. Share your experiences. Ask how they got into the lifestyle and let them know about your own experiences. Laugh about great times you've had.
You'd be surprised at how much subject material can come out of these topics, and they usually branch off in other directions that keep the conversation going.
We usually have no problem with conversation when we share our lifestyle experiences and outlooks with others.
Along the way, it's usually inevitable that non-lifestyle related topics will be explored as a natural course of the conversation.

As per your suggestion for the advice search, that a great idea! You may want to suggest that to the LL administrators. They're always open for new ideas :)
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