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Question: My fellow single femlae 'friend' is badmouthing me to others

Dear Lounge Advice,
I am a new but not new single female who has become good friends with another new but not new single female. Both were in the lifestyle before as couples and took time away. We instantly connected, and felt comfortable with sharing things between each other. Now the jealousy factor between us has hit her due to situations, and I have know come to realize she was telling imformation of me to others and possible lies during a time we were having issues, but made up since then. Now others are treating me different. I have confronted her on this, and just asked what she has told others so I could know how to defend myself. She will not deny or confirm but changes the conversation to suit her needs. I really do like her, but realized she is a react first, think later person and do I put some distance between us when I really enjoyed us being close? How do I approach others who are reacting to me in a different way and continuing the vicious immature cycle without knowing what was said?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

I'd put a hell of a lot of distance between you and her. She's perpetuating the kind of behavior that makes our gender look bad, and you don't need to be a part of that. If others are reacting negatively to you due to what she said, then shame on them. If they choose to judge you based on what one person said, then they're not the type of people you want to be around anyways. Choose not to be a part of the drama. Be the better person.
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