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Question: How do I get my woman into this?

Dear Lounge Advice,
I have a great woman and I love her to death but I would like to get into the lifestyle. How do I even begin to test the water? Don't worry I'm not a dirtbag and cheat on her or anything like that. I just want to know if there is a possiblity of living this lifestyle with the beautiful women I already have? And if there isn't a way then I won't give the lifestyle a second glance. I just don't want to ruin a good thing in the process? I kow thats a lot but any info would be great. Thank you.

K

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

If you wish to get her interested, sit down and talk to her about your desires. Show her a swinger’s website or a website of a local swinger's club. Explain to her that you can start on a swinger's site and see what happens. If she shows interest, great, but take it very slowly. You can't expect her to go from posting an ad to meeting a couple for full swap. Ask her if she would like to go to a club just to watch sometime, and take small steps from there accordingly.
As excited as you may be about swinging, it is best to step back and ascertain the best way for you both to enter the lifestyle comfortably. Your partner may require extensive time and exposure to feel at ease with this idea. Remember that many people hold misconceptions about the lifestyle and may need this time and experience to help clear up misunderstandings.
If you both do consider taking it further than online exploration, try attending a pressure-free event, such as a meet and greet, and make it clear that neither one of you is expected to do anything at all. This way, your experience will be much less intimidating and she will be more inclined to explore further.
If all goes well the first time them have her decide which event she might like to try the next time.

Your partner may warm up to the lifestyle a bit more if she enjoys the parties and the company and realizes that the stereotypes surrounding the lifestyle are often false and contrived. Attending lifestyle events serves many purposes for first-timers, or those who are otherwise timid of the initial experience. As a rule, she will be able to see firsthand the wonderful people that are involved in this, and understand that lifestylers are not depraved sexual predators, nor are they devoid of morals or couth.
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