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Question: How to get recertified after a divorce

Dear Lounge Advice,

What does one do if my now ex-wife and I used to be in the lifestyle for about six years. most of our play was for her satisfaction in the last 3 years due to my lung cancer operation. Now that I am almost fully recovered and ready to play again, its been years since my last socialization to speak of.

She is not friendly with me anymore and has ostracize me from all of our recent playmates. I've tried to ask past friends that haven't seen or played with in a long time to make me 100% so I can possibly re-find a like minded person without playing the dating game or years before I do. I am very respectful, having been married for 17 years with 3 children and fully understand what couples do NOT want. I enjoyed the lifestyle with my ex-wife and she did too, unfortunately our divorce (sounding so familiar)had all to do with money.

How do I become 100% real again without getting married or trying to break in a vanilla. Please help or I'm afraid my chocolate swirl standing will fade fast.




Dear (Anonymous),

If I'm understanding this correctly, you seem to be seeking a validation. Continue to request the seal from those who already know you, but if that doesn't work, there is a link for alternate validation on the homepage.
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