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Question: FYI

Dear Lounge Advice,

This is not so much a question as it is a request. Each and every one of you arrived in the lifestyle in your own way and for your own reasons. We got here primarily thru our penchant for voyuerism. We found the lifestyle to be an excellent forum for (her) to dress as sexy as she wants and for us to F*ck in front of people. Naturally, we became aquainted with people in the lifestyle as we attended events and felt a kinship with them however, this is where the problem lies.
Althought we enjoy the interaction (sometimes physical) of other couples and in fact find it highly erotic, we also find an inordinate amount of pressure to go beyond our boundries. Without being judgemental, we choose to preserve ONE thing that only WE share and that is sexual intercourse. We do not believe that what most other couples are doing is to be criticized, but only that it is not for us.
Having said this, we want to make something perfectly clear. In high school every boy wanted to be the one to pop the cherry. We are not in high school now. There are many couples who claim to be "sensitive to other couples" or who "respect boundries". In our experience so far this only extends to the onset of the hard-on and then all bets are off. And ladies, you are not guilt free either, many of you work as a team with your husband/boyfriend, etc. to help him get a "touchdown". With so many couples that are willing to full swap, why put a couple, relatively new to the lifestyle, at risk? If and when we ever arrive at a point where we are comfortable in seeing our significant other engaged in full penetration with someone else, let US be the deciders.
In short a ruse is a ruse by any other name but it is still a lie. Allow us to get where we are going to go and don't try to "facilitate" our journey there. You certainly are not doing us any favors.

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

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