Home   New Mail!  Contacts  Who's Online  Friends  Search  Advice  Forum  Blogs  Groups  Mall  Chat  My Account  Clubs  Travel  Login  
  -1 member in chat43 in bOOty Call
 
Lifestyle Sexual Advice
How do you get a metal cock ring on?
Does this make me a cuckold?
more sexual advice advice
Lifestyle Etiquette
I am desperate to figure out how to solve this new concern
How do I use this website to find someone?
more etiquette advice
Relationship Advice
Is he hitting spots I will never be able to hit
Now I don't know if I can trust him.
more relationship advice
Friendships, Clubs & More...
vacation in Korea or Japan
best way to find a more upscale club in our area
more friendship advice
  
Question: Disrespecting boundaries

Dear Lounge Advice, Me and my husband have been in the lifestyle for over 7 years now. We have had some really good experiences and some really not so good experiences. I am totally bisexual, and am drawn to other sexy men and couples. In small words I am totally fine with the lifestyle as long as me and my husband are on the same page and the boundaries we have set for that moment aren't crossed. But what do you do, when your husband is constantly trying to sabotage those boundaries and beliefs. How do you get your husband to understand that you wouldn't still be involved with those people in the lifestyle and keep up those relations if you weren't okay with it.

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

You need to be VERY direct with him! Tell him that what he is doing is totally unacceptable. He's lucky to be in the lifestyle. How many woman would be open to doing what you are both doing? Not many. Tell him that if he wants to continue in this, he will respect boundaries.
Tell him what you said at the end of your letter to me. Let him know what the consequences will be if he continues on his path. He can either behave, or not be involved in the lifestyle at all. Lay the law down girl!!!
Click here to view Lounge Advice archives
100's of answers to your lifestyle questions can be found here!