Dear Lounge Advice, New to the lounge but looking for real people for real encounters. How do I make myself avaialable to couples and single females without the stigma associated with single males? Sincerely, (Anonymous)

Dear (Anonymous), Actually, if you approach couples, that is probably the easiest way to fail in the lifestyle as a single male. You need to wait for them to approach you, period. So, with that in mind, you'll need appealing, classy photos, a well-written profile and a lot of patience. Get involved in the chat room and the forums and remember to mind you manners. The more you advertise yourself, and show everyone that you're a gentleman, they more likely you are to get approached. I met my significant other in this lifestyle as a single male, but I approached him first. He never made the first move when it came to couples, and always proved himself to be nothing but a respectful gentleman. The time and effort he put into his profile and his forum/chat participation quickly garnered him attention from couples. I was so impressed by his manners that I wanted him around me as much as possible.