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Question: My wife only seems excited when someone else is with us

Dear Lounge Advice,
About 2 years ago my wife got this crazy notion to start swinging. Initially I was not surprised that she would be interested in the Lifestyle, being that we met when her and her ex-husband invited me over for a threesome. I and everyone new their relationship was non-existant and that the sex was about all that was left. Initially we were madly in love and passionately pursued our lovemaking. Like all good things, our passion begin to dissapate. That is when she had the desire to start playing with single men at almost any opportunity. I remember in one particular incident she opted to go to bed after our young stud could not perform, even though I was. I want her to have her sexual freedom so I am not opposed to the situation. She seems way more excited when their is a 3rd person in our bed. Should I be concerned? Pleas advise........


Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Yes, you should be concerned. If your own love life is suffering and she is ready and willing to pursue sexual relationships outside of yours, then concern is warranted.
You both need to communicate openly about this. If it continues, it could mean an undoing of your relationship. Perhaps the outside 'interference' should be stopped until you can both figure out where things went wrong in your own bed before inviting others in.
She sound like she may the type to get bored easily, which if this is the case, you shouldn't take it personally. If this does describe her, maybe you can try some new approaches in bed with her. Be creative.
In any event, you both need to talk. Be honest with her and see if you can figure out the root cause and then you can both go from there. Nothing can be accomplished without open communication.
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