Dear Lounge Advice,my wife was a bit shy about trying out different sexual situation I told her the only reason i would consider having sex with others is I Love her to the point of wanting her to experience anything she has ever wanted to try well eat my words ...she says ok i want to watch you and another guy get eachother off orally anally, then i will join ? is she just trying to put a situation out there that i will not do ,so she can say no to any future play or can she really want this Sincerely, (Anonymous)

Dear (Anonymous), Here's what she probably heard when you gave your reasons for swinging to her: Honey, I want to have sex with other women because I love you and want you to do it too. Trust me- From a woman's point of view, I'd bank on that translation being correct. Yes, she's probably being cheeky with you because she's seeing if you're REALLY telling her the truth and you TRULY want her to have more experiences, or if you're just wanting to have sex with other women and use her lack of experience as an excuse to do it. Tell her you'd be happy to bring home another man, for her. Let her know that you aren't comfortable doing anything with him, but if it pleasures her to have another man in bed for HER, then you'll do it. If you're honestly willing to do this for her, then your actions will show that you are truly in this for her, and not just to have sex with other women. Well, nix that advice. I just read the profile and see that you're recently divorced. Keep the advice in mind if you ever get into another relationship.