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Question: Feeling a bit jealous of him chatting with a new couple

Dear Lounge Advice,
My husband and I are fairly new to the lifestyle and had a few experiences, all soft swap. We recently met a fun couple & now he is wanting to chat online & I am a bit jealous. Should I be nervous he is going to form a bond or is it just innocent flirting until our next encounter w/ this couple? Is it ok to chat? Where do you draw the line?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Dear lovely lifestyle lady-
It is absolutely okay for one or both of you to chat. Part of the excitement of this lifestyle is getting to know fun partners both in and out of bed. Frankly, just meeting couples and having bedroom fun isn't nearly as gratifying as getting to know them, flirting on chat/phone/inp-person and extending the fantasy. Get your cute butt online and chat with them too. Remember, you're in this as a couple and you're also entitled to a piece of the flirting. Heck, if you guys don't chat with them and just meet for another night of sex, they're going to start feeling used. You're going through normal growing pains and jealousy is a part of that experience.
The purpose of this lifestyle is to enhance an already fantastic bond. Naturally, there will always be a twinge of jealousy or insecurity. This comes with the territory of loving your mate, and is actually quite healthy. However, excessive jealousy or insecurity are best left outside of the swinging lifestyle. Yes, it takes a lot of trust, love, and acceptance to be involved in our lifestyle. That is why it is best to communicate with your partner thoroughly about your rules and comfort levels before you even entertain the possibility of swinging and further.
Just ask yourself this- Does he love me openly and completely? If the answer is a resounding YES! then you have nothing to worry about. Let your hair down and go with the flow. After a while, the jealousy will fade and the excitement and eroticism of the 'hunt' will replace it. Be patient and remain open. If he loves and adores you, he's not going anywhere. The guys usually let their insecurities go before us when it comes to this (trust me, I've been in your shoes). We gals take longer, but for most of us, it comes and then it CUMS!!! *wink*
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