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Question: Turning down play offers

Dear Lounge Advice, What's the best way to deal with couples that you're not attracted to if they ask to play?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Just tell the couple that if it's play that they're exclusively seeking, then you wish them well. But if it's a friendship without expectations of play, then you'd love to hang out with them.
With this scenario, you can either avoid them or be direct. I prefer being directly polite so as not to hurt feelings. This way, they will not keep a candle burning for you.
Every one of us has to grow a thick skin when it comes to this, or else the lifestyle will not be worth the endeavor.
Think of when you were single on the dating scene. How did YOU turn down advances? It's really no different here. It's two to two instead of one to one. Use what was successful when you were single as long as it's not hurtful.
If they get offended or upset, that's their cross to bear, not yours.
Show deference with you honesty and you will be doing the right thing.
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