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Question: I played alone without Hubby, should I tell him?

Dear Lounge Advice,
My husband and i are new to the lifestyle(about 6 months) and i am bi-sexual.We agree to play as a couple and do.But sometimes i go alone with bi-females that are NOT into couples and,just us girls have fun!! This is fine with hubby.But last week i went to meet a bi-female and we went out drinking(had a few to many)and went to her place.We were in the bedroom and her husband came home and he joined us.She was not into that but we had to much to drink and it just happened..I regret it but would like to know if i should tell my husband that i played alone or just let it be a lesson and never let it happen without him again?



Dear (Anonymous),

In the lifestyle the most important ingredient is trust. When you have an agreement to play only as a couple with other men involved and you break that agreement, it is tantamount to having an affair.

We have always based our relationship on honesty and trust. It seems you have that type of relationship with your husband, so you have a difficult decision to make.

I will not lie to you- I have seen relationships break up over situations such as this, and also have seen couples leave the lifestyle once that trust is broken. At the same time, we have seen relationships withstand worse mistakes.

You have to walk a mile in his shoes and ask yourself how would you feel if it were the other way around? Having had similar experiences I feel that telling him is best. Your nights will allow you to sleep easier after telling the truth. Consequences being known, the decision is up to you.

As adults, we must take responsibility for our actions- and our mistakes.
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