Dear Lounge Advice, I just found out that my wife has had an affair and had sex with a bartender one night what should I do ? Sincerely, (Anonymous)

Dear (Anonymous), Did you find out from her? If not, you need to confront her. This is a serious issue that needs to dealt with in a serious manner. You both need to talk- in fact, I daresay that you both should consider seeing a professional counselor about this. If you wish to keep the marriage intact despite what happened, seek professional help. Until then, you both need to sit down and confront the issue and the future of your relationship. I wish I could be of more help here, but this is something that you need to figure out because of the numerous variables involved that I can never know. If you need further intervention, see someone who is certified to help. If you are swinging, stop immediately and focus on your marriage! P.S. You did not mark this as anonymous, but I went ahead and did so.