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Question: Picky about play- Should I just play anyways?

Dear Lounge Advice,
I really enjoy the Lifestyle on occassion, but I am very picky with who we play with. Hubby is not so picky and gets frustrated with the whole idea. He has always been very supportive of me playing with whoever I like. I am generally attracted to sexy women but not other men. There are too few single women and not enough married women with hall passes. I told him he can have hall passes but he really wants me involved. I hate feeling obligated to play with another guy when that's not what turns me on. What is your advice? -Happily married wifey

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

If you don't want to play with another guy, don't. This is about having fun. If playing with another man is not your cup of tea, do not feel obligated to do it. Doing that will only sour you to this lifestyle.
Only do what you enjoy. If that means that play opportunities for your husband are sparse, then so be it. If he loves you and respects your preferences, he will deal with this.
Bottom line- Don't do anything you don't want to do.
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