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Question: How do I talk my wife into exploring and having wonderful intimate relationships with another couple for friendship, fun and sex?
Dear Lounge Advice,
We are a couple married for over 20 years. I am very much interested in exploring the lifestyle and swapping wife/hubby with other couples for all aspects of sexual fun including intercourse. However, my wife is still reluctant to get intimate with another couple and have sexual intercourse with another man. Just the thought of exploring other women sexually gets me very excited. How do I talk my wife into exploring and having wonderful intimate relationships with another couple for friendship, fun and sex?
There is very little you can do to talk your spouse into doing.. that she doesnt want to... and the Lifesytle certainly tops that list.
Sometimes however, people are resistant because of the fear of the unknown... and they just have notions of what goes on which does not really reflect what it is like... in fact.. you may also.
What you may want to do is have her visit websites like our general info site at www.zacnzoey.com or the like.
Or you may wish to speak to her about going to one of the local clubs or parties and commit to each other that you wont be doing "anything" other than observing.
When she sees the quality of the people and that it is more than just sex... she may open up to the idea....
You on the other hand seem pretty horned up about the whole thing.. and that can work against you... so our advice to you is to chill out alittle...
For us this is something that we do together as a couple... we strive for each other to find pleasure in it... not just to have sex with other people...
Just the thought of having sex with other women gets you very excited??? Now isnt that uncommon?? The last piece of advice... keep those thoughts to yourself!
Walk in her shoes for a bit...
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