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Does this make me a cuckold?
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Question: Wanting to take a less passive role as a SF

Dear Lounge Advice, I have been bisexual for a very long time, but have recently found myself in threesomes with a man and a woman with more experience in this type of scenerio. I take direction very well, but I also tend to fall into a more passive role each time I play this way and end up a bit frustrated. I'm not sure how to become more aggressive, or how to initiated what I want to see my male and female partners doing to please me.

Do you have any suggestions? I want to be in the mix, not on the sidelines...



Dear (Anonymous),

The only suggestion I have for you is to just do it. If you never speak up, you will remain in the passive role. You're the only one who can decide I wish I could tell you something more, but this is something that takes practice that only you can initiate.
If you want this badly enough, you'll do it.
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