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Question: How can I be honest without hurting their feelings?

Dear Lounge Advice,
We are visiting my home town of Miami and want to hit the town with some other LL couples. I (Ms) am not interested in the other couple's Mr, but still think they would be a fun couple to hang out with.

How do we tell them this in the nicest way. Or, should we not hang out with them because then they might think there is a possibility of us all hooking up.
I think its leading them on to go hang out and not tell them. They may have other couples that they'll have mutual interest in.
I want to be upfront and honest but don't know how to word it without hurting someone's feelings.

Ms Yes



Dear (Anonymous),

This is a great situation to be addressed with you and the other woman.
Tell her how you feel and let her know exactly what you told me. Then she can make the decision of whether or not to tell her hubby that you're not into him.

I've had a woman approach me before this very way. She wasn't into the man I was married to at the time, and she let me know so we wouldn't get our hopes up when we went out with them. At that point, I chose not to tell my partner about the woman's preferences. Instead, I opted to set our sites on someone else and just told my partner that I wasn't interested in playing with our friends.
Sure, I could have told my hubby exactly what she said, but I thought it was pretty nice that she approached me and I was given the choice on how to handle the situation. Her honesty and concern for my partner's feelings impressed me.

Thus, ever since then, I've always suggested this approach to others ;)
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