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Question: Not sure how to approach my husband

Dear Lounge Advice,

Being married for 19 years to a fairly "black and white" man, what would be the best way to tell him that I would like us to try new things such as swinging. There are many scenarios from what I see. However, I don't want him to flip out on me. And I certainly don't want to be a "cheating" spouse since I have never been one.

Thanks for the insight,



Dear (Anonymous),

Right now you have a profile on this site as a single female. As of now, you are cheating in his eyes. You should have discuessed this with him before even setting up a profile.

While I admire your intentions to talk with him aboutyour desires, this should have been done before even contemplating a profile on a swingers' site.

Approach him honestly. If you wish to partake in this, you need to be candid.

If you don't want to be a cheating spouse, then don't be one. As I stated before, you have already taken a step in the wrong direction by being on here without his knowledge. This lifestyle is about trust and communication.

So far, you have done none of these things.

Go talk to your husband. He deserves this, at the very least.
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