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Question: Alleviating my wife's fears about her body

Dear Lounge Advice,

About a year and half ago my wife and I started to attend some parties and played around with a few couples. Last April, my wife got pregnant and the baby is due in January. Since my wife has started showing she understandably has not want to swing.

We both love swinging, it been great for our marriage and plan to continue once the baby is born. However, she is concerned that her body will not be the same after pregnancy is feeling a little self conscious. I think she is the most beautiful women in the world and i tell her often; however, i worry that might not be enough to alleviate her fears. Do you have any advice how I might help her reduce any anxiety before we attend our next event?

Thanks


Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

I think the best thing to do is to tell her you'll give her as much time as she needs to feel comfortable with herself again. Let her know that if she wants to go to events to have fun, then you can. But she doesn't need to feel that going to the events means that any play has to occur. All she really needs is time and your understanding about her self-image.
No matter how many times our husbands tell us that we're beautiful, we usually only go by our own self-perceptions. She will be ready to play again when she feels that her body is 'back up to par'. Just sit back and keep letting her know that you think she's gorgeous, and allow her the time to get back into her comfort zone.
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