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Question: Wondering

Dear Lounge Advice,
This dude has been in the lifestyle for over a decade with one partner. His circumstances change and a couple years later (with plenty of dates in between) he meets a 100% vanilla girl his age. Things move very quickly, not just the sex but also spending huge amounts of time together. He introduces her to the lifestyle within the first three months. Hands over the LL password at 8 months. I wish I knew what to think about my guy but this is a whole new world for me and I'm in a little bit of a crisis I think. Are you just going to tell me to talk to him or can you give me a little insight into this new place? Thank you.

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

There is SO much to know about all of this. Yes, you do need to talk to him about this and get some insight and reassurance. But, you may want to dig around in the advice archives for some foundational knowledge about the lifestyle. It's wonderful if you understand how it works. If you feel uncomfortable or weird about venturing into this for the first time, that's normal. He does owe it to you to flly explain the ropes and allow you to go slowly and share your feelings about all of this.

You'll see that the crux of most advice I give in this lifestyle is all about communication and not hiding feelings.

Go take a look at the advice archives, then if you need more info from me, I'm always available to help you out :)
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