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Question: I have a hard time watching my husband kiss another women.

Dear Lounge Advice,

My husband and I have been in the lifestyle for a little over a year. We haven't played much and when we do it's always together and only soft swing. My problem is this, he doesn't have a problem with me being with other men or for that matter, other women. I on the other hand seem to have a jealousy streak. I am having a hard time just seeing him kiss another woman. We have had a 3some with another man and I was fine and so 2was he. We have also had a 3some with another woman and all was good.I just can't seem to loosen up with another couple unless all the attention is on me. I know this is very selfish, how can I get over this?



Dear (Anonymous),

In time little by little, baby-step by baby-step. Eventually you may feel more comfortable that you are just playing for fun. There are no emotions involved and maybe you will not feel so threatened by another woman with your husband.

It took time for me in my first marriage to rid myself of these feelings, and I had to let go of the same feelings with my husband now.

As you mature in the lifestyle, you may achieve that same comfort level. Give it time.
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