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Question: LS damaged our relationship

Dear Lounge Advice,

I was with the same boyfriend on off for 14 years. He wanted me to join this type of thing. I just dont understand the way of thinking how to have radom sex with strangers without destroying a relaitonship. Just wondering if other people have an opinion on this. Being on here seems to have destroyed our long term relationship and it is really sad.
Anyone have any advise?



Dear (Anonymous),

Swinging in a relationship is like the wind to a fire. If the fire is strong, swinging will be the wind that breathes more life into your fire, making it burn brightly. If your fire is weak, that same wind will eventually extinguish the flames.

So, my question to you is: WAS your fire strong enough to withstand this?

Without commnication and a strong relationship foundation, swinging will only make you both suffer.

Perhaps now is the time to examine the weakness in your relationship, whether it be insecurity, jealousy, lack of a solid foundation, or anything else that is crucial to a relationhip.

This lifestyly merely exposed the cracks in your foundation- take this opportunity to repair these flaws.

The lifestyle will always be here when you are ready.

Clearly, you were not ready yet.
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