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Question: Could you suggest a way for us to find out if our friends would be interested without embarrassing them or us?

Dear Lounge Advice,

We have been friends with another couple for several years. Recently when we've gone out, the ladies have become quite flirtatious with the other's husband. Our friends don't know that we've been in the lifestyle for about a year, and we'd really like to invite them to join us but we're concerned that they will take it the wrong way and it will hurt our friendship. This isn't a subject we seem to be able to bring up directly with them, so we were wondering if you could suggest a way for us to find out if they would be interested without embarrassing them or us.

Thanks!

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

This is a VERY difficult situation... you have to play it very carefully. Even if some couple seems cool... you never know how they will react to the news... and once you tell them... they are either going to be ok with the idea ( whether they want to participate or not) or the relationship will be cooked. There is usually very little grey areas.

What you may want to do is suggest that you guys go out to a titty bar ... or ask them how they feel about pornos.... etc .... and gauge their reactions to more sexual activities...

You may wish to ask this question in the forum section and see what some other couples have to say.

Our experiences have been with both different reactions... some react with shock and our friendships fall apart.. others are kewl with it but are not intersted... and other have come with us to Lifestyle clubs.. etc.

You know these folks better than us. If your friendship with them is very very important to you.. then dance carefully...

We also have straight friends that we do non-lifestyle activities only....
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