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Question: Easing back into the LS without jealousy

Dear Lounge Advice,
I have been in the lifestyle for a few years and I have met someone and we have been dating and are now a couple and are falling for each other and are happy. However, it is new to both of us to be a couple in the lifestyle. He is ok with everything and is a easy going guy. I on the other hand, am not so laid back. I love the lifestyle and want to stay in it, with him. But right now I don't want to share him. I want him for myself. I know he will be with other women at some point.....I have already watched another woman suck his dick......I want to be completely comfortable without letting the jealousy I know I will have, bother me or us. I want this. SO what can I do to help myself through this? Also its hard since we are still some what new that we still have single sites instead of a couples site and that is hard to deal with. Any advice on either?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

My husband was a single male in the lifestyle when I first met him. When we eventually started dating, we both decided to lay low for a while and develop our relationship. We both knew that the lifestyle was in our future, but that it would always be there for us when we felt ready to get back into it together.
Both of us had the initial feelings of not wanting to share each other, and we didn't for a while. Time was all it took for us to feel comfortable with the idea, and it eventually happened. In the meantime, instead of withdrawing from the lifestyle completely, we still attended events/clubs to be around like-minded people. Instead of playing, we just went for the atmosphere we enjoyed, and had fun with each other. This was a great compromise for us- We got to enjoy the lifestyle with each other for a while, and we developed our trust and relationship foundation until we were ready to take the plunge.
It was the perfect transition for us.
Perhaps this approach will work with you too :)
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