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Question: Push the issue or let it go?
Dear Lounge Advice,
It has been nearly 8 months since we have found a cpl we are both interested in and took it to the point of play. So I find myself wondering....we've gone this long, why even bother at this point?
My loving man is very much into variety, but will only participate if I am actively involved in a situation. As it has been so few and far between I have gone as far as to offer him hallpasses...with my final approval of course. Have to have some sort of understanding and limitations.
It has even gotten to the point of him willing to totally take one for the team in hopes of me finding a man that interests me both mentally and physically. I just can't bring myself to do that. I would prefer him to cash in the hallpass over engaging in play with persons that are in no way what we are looking for.
So my question....how do I reassure him that I am nothing but open minded with the hallpass and just want him to enjoy himself? Do I push the issue or let it go? If he's willing to take it for the team and really go where he normally would not, why is the hallpass so far fetched?
Personally, I'd be pushing the issue if it was something I felt strongly about. He probably just needs continual reassurance that you are serious and perfectly okay with that. Keep saying it and perhaps it will sink in eventually.
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