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Question: Difficulty seeing my boyfriend please others
Dear Lounge Advice,
My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 2 years. We are soul mates in every way possible. We have a great sex life. Recently we started swinging. I have done this as a single female and with boyfriends in the past. I love swinging.
However, I never did this with someone I am so in love with. I find it really difficult to see women pleasing him, or him pleasing them. Please provide some advice on how I can handle this as I enjoy the lifestyle very much. We are currently soft swap...
Discuss these exact feelings with him. I too have been there, and being in a new relationship with my soulmate, I cannot fathom entering the lifestyle yet for the exact reasons that are troubling you. Continue to stay soft swap, and don't dive in much further until you can feel more secure about this.
Really, the two things you need most are time and a feeling of absolute security with him.
The best action to take is to constantly share your feelings with each other. Constant reassurance will be the key to making you feel more secure with your feelings.
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