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Question: Dipping the proverbial toes into the lifestyle

Dear Lounge Advice,
My hubby and I have been talking about the lifestyle for awhile now. I am a little hesitant, but curious at the same time. I have never let another woman touch me like that. I'm thinking I would like to try it but I'm not sure how this really works.I have been out of any kind of dating scene for to many years to count. We have great sex in the craziest places & would like to broader our horizons a little. I don't know if this is something that I would do on a regular basis I guess it all depended on how well I liked it.My hubby is all for it but I am the one that is just a little scared. Is there an enviroment or club where you can go to observe n participate if I chose to? Is that even acceptable?..

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

ANY club is good for observing, even if you choose not to participate. The only one who can opt to participate is you. Nobody can pressure you, and you should never feel that you have to do anything, no matter what the venue is. Just choose a club (and I recommend clubs over houseparties since they are more innocuous)- go there and watch and build up a comfort level.
YOU decide the pace and what happens. Not hubby, not anyone else-- just you.
Nobody has the right to push you past your comfort level. Take it at your own pace, start slow, then determine what happens as you feel it out.

And if nothing happens, and you find that this isn't for, a loving husband will respect that and you will both move on lovingly without the lifestyle.

Afterall, we should all be more than enough for our significant others if we decide that branching out just isn't our cup o' tea.
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