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Question: Confused about feeling conveyed

Dear Lounge Advice,
As a couple we have decided to try to date singles once in a while. My husband encourages me to seek them out on the lounge. I found a date and went out with him. My husband went out on the town alone that evening to see how fun it would be to pick up a single female, since that just happened to me recently. I was picked up by a single male. It was exciting although there was no sex involved, it made me feel hot and sexy. He wanted to experience the same thing. My night went very well and came home afterwards. My husband was already home but upset with me that I didn"t answer his text at 11pm about how things were going? I felt I didn't need to since, we agreed to keep in contact only if there was a problem. He went to say that his night was a flop and he tried to get in touch with me so we could hook up as a threesome. Now.... tell me if I'm wrong, but, that's just not right, or is it. He said that I didn't take his feelings into consideration and that I put this other man first. He also said that he told me if things didn't work out for him, that he would call me and we would try to get a threesome going, I don't remember that part at all.I don't think I should continue with this anymore. confused.

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

You two just need to sit down and communicate more. It sounds like either some things were unsaid, unclear, or mis-interpreted. SO many problems in this lifestyle could be solved by simple ongoing communication.
He's naturally going to have a harder time picking up a single than you are. That's how it goes.
But, you two need to talk about that particular aspect of what you're doing and gauge how he is going to take it if you hook up more than him.
Do this: Set down certain hypothetical scenarios and discuss how you would both handle them. Try to think of as many scenarios as possible, and tackle a gameplan for all of them.
You may both need to keep in touch via text just for peace of mind.
Bottom Line- Don't give up before you give communication a few more shots. If things still get bungled after multiple communication sessions, then you may need to rethink things.
Communicate before AND after each event to plan and recap, regroup and tweek your plans.
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