Dear Lounge Advice, Hi. I'm completely new to this and am very curious about this lifestyle. I have a friend that is part of this and he and his girlfriend participate often. He has asked that I join them but I am not sure what is expected of me as I have never been with a woman. How exactly does this work and what is expected of me? I'm sorry if I have joined the wrong site but I find the stories, pictures and many of the interests to be very exciting and I would like to know the best way to enter this world without feeling rushed or penalized for not knowing more. Thanks! Sincerely, (Anonymous)

Dear (Anonymous), Let's start with THE most important thing you need to keep in mind. YOU are in charge. Do not be meek or subservient. It's okay to be new and wondering, but YOU make the rules and set the pace. That is, unless, you feel that you will enjoy being at the mercy of friends you trust. Either way, please please please, for the love of god, stick to your guns and tell them what you want and what will make you uncomfortable. Afterall, friends or not, so many couples seek out our type- the single female. You do have the upperhand here, whether you realize it or not. Make sure you are comfy with all involved, and if it all feels right, just go with the flow. There is no manual to tell you step-by-step how to do this. Just to true to yourself and do what feels good. ;) Yours truly, A fellow freshly single female