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Question: A Voyeur

Dear Lounge Advice,
My partner and I are interested in the Lifestyle but, he would like a threesome with another woman. I have never been with another woman and am kinda unsure but interested to. I think my problem would be going down on another woman.I don't think I would be in to that but I have kissed a few women and are not opposed to playing around a little.
With that being said, Is it ok to just go observe and only be with your partner for awhile until I got more comfy and was more willing to venture out? I also like to watch others, its better than fake porn and it is a turn on to me and my partner, I also don't mind being watched by others because all I am focused on is my partner and how he feels. Is there a proper name for this, so that when we are comfy we will know the proper way to express what we want? I'm sure that when we go into the environment we will have a flashing sign above our heads that say ...has no clue what to do or how to act..lol..We like to keep things spiced up and are always trying diff things. Just wanna go slow

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

The term you're searching for is "Voyeur". In this lifestyle, nothing is expected or assumed of anyone. We all have our own comfort levels and paces. If you need to go slow, you are entitled to this. Tell your partner exactly what you told me. Also, if you are in a situation with someone else who is interested, don't be hesitant to tell them where you stand. Either they'll respect your comfort levels, or they'll move on. It's so important to communicate in this lifestyle. Don't be shy about speaking up, especially with your own partner.

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