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Question: Mismatched?

Dear Lounge Advice,

So, my wife is very hot. I am decent looking-- tall, full hair, hwp, pretty well hung--but definitely not male model material. I would call us a semi-mismatched couple.

When we try to pick who to meet for a date or who to play with at a party, my wife is very picky and is only drawn to men who are basically better than me. Taller, more handsome, very well hung, ect. Women who are equal too or better than my wife are simply not interestd in me, so we usually end up with mismatched couples where the Mr. is much better than the Mrs. I'm fine with these women because they are usually still attractive, but I feel weird with my wife in that she is always trying to find someone better than me.

When we do meet or see guys who are comparable, she doesn't even give them a second look. I can also tell that she is getting frustrated in that maybe I'm holding her back from partners that she could play with if I were not part of the equation.

I'm debating about getting out of the lifestyle because I have never had so many bouts of insecurity until we got into this world. I just never feel like this in the real world.

My quesion is should even semi-mismatched couples not get into the lifestyle unless one spouse is willing to take a backseat, put their pride away, and just go along for the ride?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

My answer to your question is this-Should you both even be in the lifestyle at this point?
These types of insecurities are very unhealthy for swinging and need to be resolved between you too before even thinking about swinging.
YOu simply cannot be around this scene if you are feeling this way.
You two need to talk about this, asap.

I mean it.


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