Dear Lounge Advice, I am so new to this site, but I am curious about the lifestyle and interested in at least trying it. My wife will not have any part of the lifestyle. Since my wife will not participate, will other couples still seek a married man? The site seems to refer to "single men" but does not give the option of listing myself as "married". What are suggestions for a married man to approach either another woman, two women or a couple that I may be interested in playing? Also, is there any truth to the rumor that swingers put white rocks on their front porch to signal to other swingers they are available? Thank you. Sincerely, (Anonymous)

Dear (Anonymous), One of the key elements in the LIfestyle is honesty. If your wife willingly gives you a "hall pass" and if you're up-front with potential play partners, then you may find a lot of great times with couples looking for another male or males to join them, or females who want NSA fun. You might even find that you can share the details with your wife and enhance your married sex life. But dishonesty is a recipe for disaster. Dishonesty is a Recipe for Disaster. Repeat that a few times in your mind. Far as I know there is no truth to that rumor. I just like white rocks on my porch. ;)