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Question: Comfort zone venturing into full swap

Dear Lounge Advice,

My man & I have been together for a little over 2 yrs. & in the LS for about a 1-1/2 yrs. We have been mostly soft swap, but looking to venture further in the right situation. I(female)am still having trouble seeing him playing with other women especially when he is away from me. I think for me im more comfortable when we are in the same bed, all together. But that doesn't always work out...especially when there are many couples involved. Any suggestions on how I could become more secure in that kind of situation?

Thanks

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

You stick to your comfort zone for now, period. If you are only comfortable doing same bed play, then keep it that way. If any other type of play bothers you, then make it off-limits. YOU are priority #1- NOT the potential playmates and the desire that accompanies future endeavors. If you compromise your comfort zone, it will create problems. Trust me. I've seen it one too many times and have done it myself, to my own peril.
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