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Question: Weight gain and confidence

Dear Lounge Advice,

I love the idea of swinging.. But lately I have had to have some medication for my asthma which has put over 60 Pounds on me..
How do I get over the insecurity of my weight and getting back in the swing of enjoying this lifestyle.. Any ideas??

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Even the most perfect looking people have insecurities.
Let's try this- first, look in the mirror and find five positive things about yourself. It could be anything- but do it. Second, project positivity. That starts with your attitude about your self- image. If you view yourself as anything less than desirable, then you'll probably project that. People pick up on that, or may even prey on that.
If there are ways that you can lose some of this weight, make a goal to do so, with your doctor's advice if you can. This could be something as simple as diet and exercise. If diet and exercise can't help you overcome the effects of this medicine, then you are going to suffer health consequences from weight gain. Surely, there are other treatment options for your condition that won't cause such a drastic side effect.
As I write this, I realize that I am focusing not on your question about being comfortable in the lifestyle. I'm focusing on your health. If I am doing this as I write, and I'm a complete stranger, then you should be more worried about your health than swinging right now. Gaining 60 pounds on one medicine is NOT healthy. Have you spoken to your doctor about ways to combat this? If not, get on it ASAP.
As for your LS concern, here is my advice:There is no one like you. No one will ever be you. You are different from everyone else. There is something that you have that no one on this earth will ever have. Firstly, do you know what that something is? Do you really know what makes you unique? Secondly, do not measure beauty by what everyone else says it is. Beauty starts and ends with you



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