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Question: How do you tell a couple you are not interested after reading about them?

Dear Lounge Advice,
We have a website containing personal photographs which are password protected, and put a note in our profile to contact us for the password. A couple recently contacted us for the password. Unfortunately, the male is bi-sexual and since there is no chance that we would meet them we do not wish to give them the password. We want to keep our site restricted to those we want to actually meet. How can we tell them this nicely, without hurting their feelings?


Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

We try to tell people to remember that we are all big boys and girls here.

While it is very noble to wish to consider the feelings of people who you may never see again, it is best to just be upfront and honest in a direct manner and you are not required to go into details.

In a case such as that (which we have run into as well) we would reply as such: "Thank you so much for your interest but after reading a bit about you (or viewing your profile on a site such as this) we appreciate your interest but we do not think that we would make a good match. Thank you and good luck."

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