Dear Lounge Advice, The first couple that we payed with was very adamant about being friends with benefits. They asked that we played only with them for fear of STI/STD. The play stopped due to what seemed to be some baggage they carry. They were very clear from the beginning that we were there last attempt in the lifestyle. They are now our closest friends, which is great. Who doesn’t want more friends. Our issue is we met them on a lifestyle site ( and see them on line all the time...) and thus it was the first tie that bound. As we have continued this wonderful adventure we would love to seek there advice and discuss situations that we have encountered. Dare we bridge that with them now or should we just enjoy the outcome we have? Dazed and Confused Sincerely, (Anonymous)

Dear (Anonymous), If they are your close friends, then go ahead and open up the discussions. Perhaps the same has crossed their minds. Worth a shot, and if you are as close as you say you are, then it shouldn’t harm the friendship.