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Question: My wife plainly states she’s not interested in is, so I’m going to try a different angle

Dear Lounge Advice,

I’ve wanted to play with my wife in the lifestyle now for the past 5 years. She is not open to it at this point and now I find myself wanting to try something exciting or tempting fate.

1) I’d prefer sharing her or finding a regular boy toy for her pleasure. Should I quietly find a soft swing couple or single male that is attracted to her for our weekend dates (concerts, clubs, etc)? It would be nice to see her interact normally with a man that wants her and see if she gets excited by him socially. She doesn’t have to have sex with him for me to know once she’s attracted.


2) Do I find another couple or single woman that I can play with on the side? I still want to enjoy MFM threesomes somehow.

Sincerely,

Kinky and Confused

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Yeah, you’ll be tempting fate, alright.
Why are you wanting to find a boy toy for her? For her pleasure, as you claim, or because if you ’give’ her that, then you’re free to finally get your wish and play in the lifestyle
You know how this sounds right?
She hasn’t been open to it for five years, and now you’re trying to ’work the system’ to figure out how to get involved yourself?
Now, let’s look at the facts- us women, especially when playing solo, are MUCH more in demand
So, what happens when you give her playtime permission with another man or couple, then you can’t find the same.

Wouldn’t that be ironic.
How about this- if you want so badly to do the lifestyle, mmf thing, how about you do it without manipulating someone who has plainly shown no interest- do it as a legit single male.

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