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Question: Insecurity

Dear Lounge Advice,
We have been participating in lifestyle for the past 4 years. We are not heavy hitters. Wife still appears to be full of issues, but wants to remain in the game. She likes takeovers but not home parties, we go to swing clubs, most of the time.
She is mostly in for the girl-play, but occasionally drifts to a male, for fun.
The problem is that while she is having her fun, girl or guy, she always seem to get upset when I begin to have my fun, with the other female.
What gives? She seem to have a double standard. Iím suppose to go no further then soft-swap, while she enjoys the entire ride.
Sheís a hottie, but doesnít seem to know it. Iím thinking that she might be insecure about herself, or us.
I like the fact that she enjoys herself in LS, but I would also like to enjoy my time as well, without an infraction, for my actions. Your thoughts?



Dear (Anonymous),

Classic signs of insecurity, either about herself or your relationship.
This needs to be a sit down, serious talk- non-confrontational. Open and honest.
The only way youíll start to get an understanding is by opening up a line of communication.
Ask her what she REALLY wants out of this lifestyle (I.e. rules/expectation/boundaries)
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